How To Master Fear And Create Your Ultimate Life
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April 19, 2019 By T. Harv Eker Leave a Comment
If you want to live your best possible life, you have to become the master of your fear.
Fear will stop you from going after what you want. For a lot of people, it stops them from even knowing what they want, because admitting it is too scary.
For others, it makes them believe they can’t have what they want, don’t deserve it, or wouldn’t be able to handle it if they got it.
If you let fear rule your life, it will kill your creativity, your confidence, and your ability to attract the things you want.
But this doesn’t mean you have to get rid of it. In fact, we need some fear to keep us safe. But if you want to create your ultimate life, you have to know how to live with fear and not let it run the show.
How To Know If Fear Is Holding You Back
Fear is always with us, but it plays a more dominant role for some. So how can you tell if fear is holding you back?
First, look at your life. How are you doing in the following areas?
Happiness and Fulfillment
If any part of your life is not optimal, or at least well on the way, fear is likely playing a role. Most problems are solvable, and most skills are learnable, so if you’re not solving your problems and developing the skills you need to succeed in life, something is getting in the way. And the fact that some people overcome incredible hardship to achieve success shows us that external factors aren’t to blame. So that means that what’s stopping us is on the inside.
Second, to get more insight into how fear may be controlling you, ask yourself a few questions:
Do you know with clarity what you want in life?
Do you feel capable of getting it?
Do you feel certain you’ll really like it?
Do you believe others will approve of you when you get it?
Do you make plans and act on them consistently?
Are you good at making decisions?
Are you okay with trying things and failing?
If your answer to any of the above is no, fear could be getting in your way.
Don’t Let Fear Run Your Life
So what effects does fear have on the results you get in life? Well, it can be pretty destructive.
Fear can keep you stuck in a familiar state of struggle, lack, and mediocrity. It can keep you broke or just getting by and prevent you from getting anywhere close to rich.
Fear can stop you from doing things that would make a big impact in the world and contribute to others’ lives. It can keep you stressed and depressed, which can take a huge toll on your health.
It can leave you unfulfilled and drowning in regret. It can stop you from leaving a crappy job, from getting your business off the ground, or from marketing or networking.
It can stop you from making friends or talking to that cute person at the coffee shop who could be the partner of your dreams if only you could muster the courage to talk to them.
In short, fear can stop you from getting anything meaningful and desirable you can think of if you let it.
The Power Of Mastering Fear
By contrast, taking control of your fear frees you to work towards your goals and attract what you want with the full force of your mind and energy.
You take on a warrior spirit and a do-whatever-it-takes attitude to create the life you most want.
You will have more clarity about your life vision because you won’t be trying to hide the truth from yourself.
You will find your creative powers unleashed, as you approach challenges from a place of confidence rather than overwhelm.
You’ll find it easier to tap into a sense of excitement and enthusiasm about your life, your work, and your relationships.
You won’t be putting off your happiness for after you achieve your goals. Instead, you’ll enjoy the journey, knowing that you’re getting where you want to be.
And you’ll find that you have to set new goals more often since you keep achieving them quickly and easily.
3 Ways Taming Fear Helps You Achieve Success
So you might be wondering how mastering fear can have such a huge impact on your life. Here are some of the biggest ways:
A lighter load – Imagine hiking up a mountain trail carrying an 80-pound pack filled with junk you don’t need. The ascent is hard enough on its own, but the pack weighs you down and drains your energy. You’re drenched with sweat. It’s exhausting. Now imagine the same hike without all the dead weight. You’ll be flying!
More brainpower – At a physical level, when you’re in fear mode, blood leaves the rational part of your brain. It’s very hard to think clearly or creatively, and productivity plummets. When you’re relaxed, happy, and confident, it’s much easier to get things done and have great communication with the important people in your life.
Less second-guessing – You can spend less time worrying about making the right choices and more time living and doing the things you enjoy and moving your life forward.
How to Master Your Fear, and Create Your Ultimate Life
So by now, you’re probably wondering how to start mastering your fear so you can create your ultimate life.
There are 3 essential keys to overcoming fear: awareness, understanding, and rewiring. You have to recognize what you’re afraid of, confront it, and then change your thoughts and emotional reactions. Well, you’re certainly aware now, and you have a better understanding of fear. So what’s left?
In order to rewire yourself around fear, and truly start living the life you want, you need to do two things.
One, you need to change the way you react to your thoughts.
Two, you need to get in touch with what your ultimate life actually looks like. You can’t really go anywhere if you don’t know where you’re headed, can you? You don’t just wander around hoping to get somewhere! You need a goal destination, like a restaurant or the gym. Then you can make the map and go where you need to.
To help people draw that map so they can achieve all of their real-life goals, I created a 7-step system to help you get clear on what you want, and create it in your life. It’s called